#1 could be the cable. I have a couple of displayport to hdmi cables on a desktop PC . They work on windows but one of them does not work under linux.
#2 I can't help with. I wrote the docs you are following and I have never experienced a non booting pi like that. It would be interesting to stop the install at the CLI prompt and see if it fails then the same way. Then install xfce and se eif it fails then. then after adding preempt-rt and so on
If you get failures with plain vanilla stuff without preempt-rt, Perhaps log an issue with debian
I just thought, I was working with Debian 12.0 and now 12.1 is out. I wonder if the daily builds have been broken?