For those wanting a simpler SPI connection situation, the prototype boards arrived from China today and I made up some adapters and tested the MKS and rPi ends while also ohming out the SKR adapter and all is A-ok.You can order your boards from dirtypcb.com or ask and I'll get you the KiCAD and GERBER files.
Remora MKS and SKR ribbon cable Adapters PCBs
This uses standard 2x5(10 pin) header sockets which fit in the EXP connectors on the SKR board or on the MKS board the outside row of the 2x5(10p) socket slips onto J7 header pins. Any straight or 90deg 2x5(10pin) headers will fit in the other end and interface with the GLCD ribbon cables normally used on the EXP1 and EXP2 connectors.
OK, I found one goof and that was the rPi 40pin connector layout relative to the board. I made the mistake of doing the layout based on the very nice ARGON One 40pin layout and it turns out it's rotated 180 degrees from the rPi itself. So on the ARGON One the board/adapter sticks out the rear but on the rPi the board/adapter extends inward over the CPU instead of out the side. It works fine and if you use straight 2x5 header pins the ribbon cable and connector will extend upward instead of across the rPi.
I'll repeat my testing with the very long 700mm GLCD ribbon cable now that the grounding and signal traces are solid on both ends.